Therapy for People Pleasing & Boundaries.
You’re kind and dependable-so why are you so exhausted?
Do you feel like you’re always walking on eggshells to keep others happy?
I work with adults who feel stuck in people-pleasing patterns and chronic self-doubt — helping them learn to set healthy boundaries and trust their own voice. Our work together is about finding ways to feel more grounded and confident in your choices without losing the relationships that matter most or your peace of mind.
Why It Can Fell So Hard to Stop People Pleasing
For many, it begins in early experiences where love felt conditional or conflict felt unsafe. What once helped you cope can, over time, turn into a pattern that leaves you feeling drained and disconnected from yourself.
It’s often rooted in:
Fear of rejection or abandonment
Worry about disappointing others
A need to feel valued or accepted
Anxiety around conflict
The belief that your needs matter less than everyone else’s
Signs You May Be Struggling with Boundaries
Rarely say “no” — even when you’re already overwhelmed
Put your own needs or values aside to avoid upsetting others
Constantly seek validation or reassurance before making decisions
Avoid conflict at all costs, even if it means staying silent
Worry excessively about what others think of you
Feel invisible or resentful in your relationships
These aren’t personality flaws. They’re signs that your boundaries may be unclear, unspoken, or consistently crossed — and that with support, you can learn to set them in ways that feel safe and respectful
People Pleasing and Boundaries Go Hand in Hand
Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re the healthy space where you can honor your needs while still staying connected to others.
Without them, people-pleasing can become your default, and over time you may lose touch with what you want, need, and value.
In therapy, we can talk about boundaries in ways that feel safe, doable, and respectful, so you can begin showing up in your life with more honesty, less guilt, and less fear.
“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.”
How I Help Clients Break the People-Pleasing Cycle
Using evidence-based therapy approaches like CBT, mindfulness, and self-compassion practices, I help clients:
Understand the roots of their approval-seeking behavior.
Reconnect with their own needs and values.
Set boundaries with less guilt and more clarity.
Tolerate the discomfort that can come with assertive communication.
Feel more grounded, confident, and authentic in daily life.
Maybe you’ve spent years being the “easy one” — the one who doesn’t make waves, who keeps everyone else comfortable. You smile when you’re hurt. You apologize, even when you’re not sure why. And when it’s time to make a decision for yourself, you freeze, wondering “What if I choose wrong?” Or you hear that old voice in your head saying, “Don’t be selfish.”
Our work together can be a place to pause and ask, “What do I really need?” It’s a space where you don’t have to perform or hide how you feel. We’ll explore where these patterns began and practice ways to reconnect with your voice, boundaries, and the part of you that’s been quietly asking for more.
As that connection strengthens, you may notice decisions feeling clearer, relationships becoming more balanced, and a growing ability to show up in your life in ways that feel honest, grounded, and fully your own.
A Helpful Reframe
Being nice comes from kindness.
People pleasing comes from fear.
Therapy helps you know the difference—so you can choose genuine connection instead of automatic compliance.
You can be compassionate and have boundaries. You can say no and still be a good person. Let’s work together to help you reclaim your voice, your values, and your peace of mind.
If you’ve been feeling stuck in people-pleasing patterns, you don’t have to keep navigating it alone. With the right support, you can learn to speak up for yourself, honor your needs, and still maintain the relationships that matter to you.
Our work together can give you space to untangle old patterns, practice new ways of relating, and feel more grounded and confident in your choices.